Never make the mistake of measuring your life against what other people have achieved. Maybe you don’t have a college degree like your friends, maybe you don’t make as much money as your sister, maybe most of your friends are married, and you are still single.
When you measure and compare your life based on what other people around you have achieved, you become disappointed, feel undervalued and lose your focus. You were born to live your own unique life, everybody is on their own journey, and it is going to be different for everybody; sometimes, what is right for one is not right for another.
When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you. – Lao Tzu
Comparison is pointless; it gets you nowhere. You are on your own journey, and choosing to waste precious moments on comparing yourself to others is to waste precious moments where you could mindfully be building your perfect destiny.
You aren’t supposed to replicate another person’s life because you have your own unique role to fulfil in this world that no one else can.
What will be will be, the universe has your back, it has its own grand plans for you, and if you live with trust and positivity, you will get exactly what is meant for you. Just release, surrender and trust the universe a little more. Ask for what you want because you will be surprised at how often the universe says yes – you just have to ask first.
Create your own universe, live by your own rules and know that there is enough abundance for everyone in this world. Just because somebody has something that you want, it does not mean that there is any less for you. The world is full of abundance and opportunity. You just have to work out how to find it, and sometimes this takes a lot of trial and error. After each failure, pick yourself up and find a better way to do things. Eventually, opportunities will come your way. Afterall; anything worth having never comes easily.
Here Are Five Tips To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
1. Reprogram your thinking and headspace
Next time you start comparing yourself to others, you need to make a conscious effort to reprogram your thinking. For example, if your ego creeps up and you start thinking, “I’m not as smart, or pretty, or talented”, choose to shoot it down with a little positive ammo. Do this by using affirming self-talk. The power of the “I AM” statement should never be undermined.
When Dr Wayne Dyer was here with us all, he would talk a lot about the “I AM” statement and how you create your reality. This theory has been proven over and over again – so you must now try it.
Next time you start judging, comparing and feeling not good enough, shout over your ego and say, “I AM”… make sure what follows is something you want. For example, “I AM successful and smart”. Trust me, even though you may not believe it straight away, after a few times, you will start believing it, and eventually, it will become your truth.
Next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to another, stop for a moment and redirect your thoughts. Instead of succumbing to the temptation of comparing yourself to someone else, ask yourself a few questions.
- What are you doing today that you couldn’t have done 10, 5 or even 1 year ago?
- What have you learnt over your years?
- How have you improved?
- What have you achieved recently that you never thought you could?
- What are you most proud of?
- How have you become wiser over the years?
3. Get a sense of your own value
You are unique in your knowledge, life experiences, talents, and special gifts. There is no one else like you on the planet. Get in touch with this, so you gain a sense of your own value. What do you have to offer others? How do you uniquely help them? What is unique about you? What brings you joy?
4. Create a continuous self-improvement plan
Life is about improving, getting wiser and evolving. You never reach a final destination; it’s all about the journey and what you learned and discovered along the way. Choose to empower yourself by always trying to better yourself.
- Do this by making a top ten list of what you want to achieve, and then go about setting some goals.
- Ask yourself how are you going to achieve these things?
- When setting the goals put a time limit on them. When do you want to achieve them?
- If you don’t reach your goal, don’t give up; find another way to achieve it.
5. The compare list
Make a list of areas where you’ve been comparing yourself to others and decide to stop playing the comparison game. By taking ownership of your thoughts, you become aware of them – hence it becomes easier to control them. Write down your top five, and then work through stopping these first. Then move on to your next top five, and continue until you run out of comparisons.
Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you. – Unknown
You have to release the judgment in order to release the comparison. Know that you have unique gifts and qualities, unlike anyone else. You are special and have something to contribute – so drop all comparisons and embrace who you authentically are.